I grew up in Northern California wine country and moved to Los Angeles to be an actor. In the beginning, I slept on a couch and didn’t have a car. I was trying to fulfill a dream—I’d done some television prior to becoming a Playmate, shows like Beverly Hills, 90210 and Love Boat: The Next Wave, but Playboy was my big stepping-stone.
I was Hef’s girlfriend for two years, starting in 1998, which I’ve never really talked about. He had a huge impact on my life. He taught me so much about the entertainment business and how to handle success. People assume he’s a party guy; what they don’t know is he was very loyal. When he was with me, he was with me. It was a time when you’d go to parties and hang out with people like George Clooney, Leonardo DiCaprio and Cameron Diaz. We didn’t have camera phones or social media; we didn’t have to worry about TMZ.
My April 2000 Playmate pictorial was shot at a winery near where I grew up. I was in my element, stomping grapes. My family was even in one of the photos featured in the magazine; we still laugh about it. I got cast on Baywatch Hawaii shortly after I shot that pictorial. I moved to Hawaii to do the show and got to hang out on the beach and swim in the ocean all day.
When I lived at the Mansion I was like the mother hen, a mama bear; other Playmates would always come to me for advice.
When I auditioned for the movie Starsky & Hutch, Ben Stiller and the director, Todd Phillips, were in the room. They said, “Weren’t you on The Surreal Life?” I said yes, and they were like, “Oh my God, we love that show. We love Emmanuel Lewis!” So I thought, Hmmm. I went and got an autographed Emmanuel Lewis eight-by-10 head shot—“To my man Todd, hire my girl Brande”—and sent that to him. I got the part. Always go the extra mile to get what you want.
When I lived at the Mansion I was like the mother hen, a mama bear; other Playmates would always come to me for advice. After I did my first Celebrity Apprentice, I thought, Now’s the time to write a memoir. It became a 2010 self-help book based on my life experiences, called Bounce, Don’t Break. Jenny McCarthy reviewed it, and Donald Trump contributed something to it; so did Hef.
Around that time I started to move away from entertainment. Part of it was because I had missed my youngest son’s first day of kindergarten because I was in Louisiana, shooting a movie. And that broke my heart. Being a mother is the best thing I’ve ever done, and I never wanted to miss anything again. I went back into real estate—I’d graduated from high school a year early and gotten my real estate license when I was 18. My website is YourCelebrityRealtor.com. I spent 20 years working to build up my name, so I’m going to use it! But I still need a creative outlet. To promote my listings, I make videos—I write out the shot list, I plan the script, I direct. So I still get to scratch that artistic itch. From time to time I’ll still do a TV show, like Battle of the Network Stars, or the occasional movie cameo.
Now I live in Temecula. I always wanted to have a vineyard and raise my kids with an upbringing similar to the one I had. I have five acres. It’s a wonderful way of life. We’re growing, and will eventually sell, the grapes. I plan to do my own rosé. I’m calling it Tara, first of all because my house kind of looks like the house in Gone With the Wind, but also because of what I’ve lived through. Going through divorce, rebuilding, starting from scratch and having strength—it’s like the sentiment from the movie: “I’ll never be hungry again.” Calling it Tara Vineyards symbolizes that comeback feeling for me. It’s not easy being a single mom and working full time, but I’ve always been very driven and motivated. I just get out there and do it.