When We Gender Sexual Assault, Male Survivors Don't Come Forward

“Why shouldn’t you park next to a parked van?” asked my father as we strolled through a store parking lot. “Use your brain and think.” I had no answer and could sense his growing agitation. “Someone could snatch you up, throw you in the back of their van and kidnap you.” Years spent working on molestation cases for the Navy legal department fostered the parental paranoia that tainted my upbringing. Every outing with him became an opportunity to incite fear.